January 2, 2017
January 2, 2017
"Isn't this puppy adorable?," states the individual enamored with having a dog.
A frequent need for compromise happens when one partner brings a dog into the house and the other person does not want it.
In any relationship compromise is necessary. In order to determine how to create a solution, first determine the objections of each party. Then identify all the options in order to create a way to solve the issues correctly.
The conversation as to whether to have or keep a dog must explore all the reasons that it is wanted and those for why it is unwanted.
The argument for a dog:
Dogs guard their owners from intruders. People feel safer when they have a dog. Also if one member of the family becomes aggressive the dog will restrain that member in the best manner available to that species.
Why do we want to have a pet? The reasons are not as obvious as it may seem. Of course
everyone wants to love and be loved. Dogs especially fulfill unconditional love requirements.
However, they do much more than that for the owners. Self esteem is established when one is accepted by others for who and what they are.
Dogs do that without exception.
When individuals have been hurt or damaged by life experiences, the animal helps to heal the emotional wounds.
We also know that there are working dogs who fulfill the physical needs of challenged persons by being a guide dog or one which opens doors and fetches items that the paralyzed person is unable to do. In ordinary circumstances these services are unnecessary.
And then there are the unexpected services of protecting the family from fire or alerting the members when they are ill and/or in need of medical attention.
Now for the reasons to not have a dog:
In all of the below reasons keep in mind that an animal must be maintained and if the partner feels that any of these conditions are not meet, there should not be animal brought into their residence. Below are the conditions needed in order to maintain dog.
Both partners likes and fears must be taken into consideration,. Also some individuals are allergic to animals's fur or the litter that may be used to handle defecation.
Food, medical attention, exercise. and proper training so that they will use the outdoors for potty training must be provided with money, time, and energy. Also, whatever other training the animal might need to fit comfortably into the household might strain the budget of necessities.
The species of dog is important so that it fits the needs and requirements of every member of the household. How aggressive, noisy, social, or its size that will fit in with the living quarters.
The ability of the couple to provide a dog run, outdoor time, and/or exercise equipment to keep the dog healthy and happy so that the people requirements can be met.
Picking up the excrement daily and disposing it properly along with vacuuming the hair daily from the floors and furniture is a necessity.
Individuals preferences such as whether the animal should be allowed on the couch, bed, or other restricted areas need to be negotiated between the partners.
Occasionally one partner may resent the time spent with the dog.
Locate the specific set of rejections and then develop a solution. Out right rejection may not be an option depending on the strength of resistance from the partner. Then some type of compromise is necessary. An agreement needs to be met and kept for the entire lifetime of the dog.
Compromise should be adhjucated by the level of degree of the the individuals feeling of priory. This is the most important area that should be explored. If each partner considers the other's determination of what is high priority for their partner, regardless if it is low priority for him/her/self: then, in all cases of living together there will be harmony.
However, in some cases both parties feel that the issue takes on their highest priory. When this happens the couple must create a creative solution that will be satisfactory -in the most part- by both of them.