June 9, 2011
Attitude

Stress research confirms that it is not what we go through, but how we handle stress which then determines how stressed we are.

Programs such as “I should not have survived” illustrate how the determination to live keeps otherwise doomed victims alive.

There are cases of individuals who endured horrendous situations such as: witnessing cruelty or experiencing it first hand. These survivors either relive the horrors daily or choose to live with harmony and happiness instead. Those who decide that they will not allow the tragedy to rule their lives; live free of the event.

Indeed it takes quite an adjustment to deal with abusive behavior or language. One should always create a plan to avoid such experiences, yet the anxiety and fear of another happening drains the energy from the victim. A plan to prevent a past occurrence to be a daily relived one, must include avoidance of any similar situation (if this is possible) so that one will not have to experience such an encounter again. Choose to put fears to rest. It is normal to feel cautious, but being in a constant state of alarm is discomforting and ruins ones immune system. It is important to replace pleasant thoughts with the concerned ones.

Meditation helps to calm the mind and body and develops the atmosphere for replacing negative thoughts with affirmative ideas. Throwing away the fear, but maintaining the mindfulness to avoid future occurrences through a meditative structure repeated daily creates a peace of mind so that life will become normal again.