Columns
Real Love
December 5, 2021
Children Are Not Pets
May 6, 2021
Mixed Matched Couple
March 25, 2021
The Brain
November 9, 2020
Investigating Lies
May 8, 2020
Solving The Problems that COVID-19 Creates
March 28, 2020
Low Self Esteem
March 4, 2020
When to Help & When to Not
January 25, 2020
Goading
December 5, 2019
Stories We Tell Ourselves
October 24, 2019
Sudden Behavioral Changes
September 11, 2019
Vindictive Women
June 19, 2019
Consensual Rape
May 22, 2019
Delusional/Emotional Behavior
April 29, 2019
Men Have Feelings Too!
April 5, 2019
Jumping to Conclusions
January 21, 2019
When Emotions Rule
November 26, 2018
Emotional Residue
October 23, 2018
Emotional Cancer
June 5, 2018
Emotional Residue
May 5, 2018
Energy Work
April 5, 2018
Figure It Out
March 1, 2018
Silence
February 13, 2018
Motivation
February 1, 2018
Hands Off
January 2, 2018
Compromise
December 14, 2017
Safety Measures
November 12, 2017
What Are People Really Saying?
October 17, 2017
War
October 16, 2017
Our Primitive Brain
October 15, 2017
Tests
October 1, 2017
Is It Communication?
September 14, 2017
Trust Issues
September 5, 2017
Distrust
August 16, 2017
Solutions
July 11, 2017
Negative Behavior
June 10, 2017
Procrastination
May 23, 2017
Who Lies?
May 2, 2017
We Have Two Brains
April 1, 2017
Women's Protection Laws Needed
March 1, 2017
Attachments
January 26, 2017
Adult Grade School Behavior
January 11, 2017
Reflection
December 1, 2016
Active Listening
November 23, 2016
Lies/Liars
November 1, 2016
Unsaid Remarks
October 1, 2016
Power Stories
September 14, 2016
2016 Candidate Race
September 1, 2016
Candidates Campaigning
July 21, 2016
Risk
June 3, 2016
The Nothing Box
May 1, 2016
Aging - Blessing or a Curse?
April 1, 2016
Today and Tomorrow
March 14, 2016
Power
March 1, 2016
Creative Thinking
February 2, 2016
Trust Issues
January 10, 2016
Male/Female Communication
November 18, 2015
A Christmas Tale
October 1, 2015
Decisions
September 1, 2015
Distraction
August 7, 2015
Embarrassed
July 26, 2015
Facebook Problems
June 15, 2015
Experiencing "The Now"
June 14, 2015
Possession vs. Equality/Love
May 9, 2015
How This Counselor Improves Relationships
March 31, 2015
Raw Grief
February 15, 2015
Victim Mentality
December 1, 2014
Eliminate Negativity
October 22, 2014
Retirement
October 1, 2014
Spoiled Children
September 4, 2014
Fear Is Fatal
August 20, 2014
Gender Priorities
June 23, 2014
What Is A Lady?
June 12, 2014
Lifestyles
May 15, 2014
Common Sense
May 14, 2014
Misperceptions
April 11, 2014
What a Good Relationship Needs
March 18, 2014
Helping or Enabling?
March 1, 2014
Irony
January 6, 2014
Role Confusion
November 22, 2013
Accounting
October 31, 2013
Diverse Cultures of the Bride and Groom
September 3, 2013
Children Need Guidance
August 17, 2013
Build a Category of Happy - Or Amazing or Wonderful Thoughts
July 3, 2013
What is Counseling?
June 16, 2013
Intentions
April 13, 2013
Conundrum
March 29, 2013
Proper Office Etiquette
March 13, 2013
Fix It!
February 12, 2013
Hurt
January 23, 2013
Clothes Send a Message
January 5, 2013
Misinterpretation of Love
November 25, 2012
Soldier's Guilt
November 7, 2012
Bipartisanship
October 1, 2012
Marriage: License To Be Disrespectful?
September 11, 2012
Comedian Roast's Toast
August 29, 2012
Misplaced Blame And Accusations
August 5, 2012
Little Details
July 1, 2012
Dog Whisperer
June 7, 2012
Primal Behavior
May 17, 2012
Self Acceptance
April 4, 2012
Marriage Failures
March 1, 2012
Shock & Awe
February 19, 2012
Why Fight?
January 9, 2012
Misconceptions
December 1, 2011
Keep Dancing!
November 3, 2011
Forgiveness vs. Understanding
October 1, 2011
Control vs. Helpful
August 31, 2011
Closure
August 7, 2011
Meditation
July 6, 2011
Deny or Replace?
June 22, 2011
Thankful
June 9, 2011
Attitude
May 16, 2011
What Story Do You Tell Yourself?
April 19, 2011
Results
March 24, 2011
Competition
February 22, 2011
Perceptions
February 4, 2011
Self Esteem
January 8, 2011
Tourette Syndrome
December 4, 2010
XMas Wishes
November 3, 2010
Stress Reactions
October 7, 2010
Deep Seated Causes
September 28, 2010
Motives
August 10, 2010
Where Are You Headed?
July 19, 2010
Why War?
June 18, 2010
About Wayne Dyer's "Excuses Begone"
June 7, 2010
How To Create Togetherness
May 17, 2010
Denied Choices
May 14, 2010
Labels
April 17, 2010
Fan Mail
March 11, 2010
Economic Turndown Fallout
February 9, 2010
Emotions Are Physical
February 8, 2010
Pack Rats
January 5, 2010
End Excuses
January 2, 2010
Overcoming Family Past
November 18, 2009
Causes of Anxiety
November 15, 2009
Failure Attitudes
October 20, 2009
Delivery of Needs
September 21, 2009
Composing a Budget
September 7, 2009
Dance Yourself to Happiness
August 24, 2009
Male Gender Differences
August 3, 2009
The Brain
July 17, 2009
Equal Rights
July 2, 2009
Team Work -Co-ordination
June 24, 2009
The Joy Of Life
June 16, 2009
Possession
June 3, 2009
Rid Yourself of ANTS
May 14, 2009
Moochers
April 25, 2009
Self Esteem
April 16, 2009
How To Deal With Bullying
April 13, 2009
The Difference between Sacrifice or Choice
March 30, 2009
Shock
March 27, 2009
Behavior - Feeling - Effect
March 19, 2009
Anger Management Dream
March 11, 2009
Lies
February 21, 2009
Interpretation
January 21, 2009
The Misunderstood Brain
January 6, 2009
Projection
December 5, 2008
Understanding the Brain
November 29, 2008
Happiness
November 25, 2008
Puppy Love
November 9, 2008
Obama's Communication Skills
October 13, 2008
An Economy Dream
October 3, 2008
Computer and Men
September 28, 2008
Do You Love Me?
September 13, 2008
Memories
September 6, 2008
Food For Thought/Instincts
July 15, 2008
Wise Animals
July 1, 2008
Teenage Rage
Here is an archive of Bernadine Fawcett's A Counselor's Reflections columns for The Sound Observer from 2001 to 2008.
June 27, 2008
Relationship #2
June 13, 2008
Relationship Rejection Issues
May 23, 2008
Adult Time Out
May 9, 2008
Misunderstandings
April 25, 2008
Fear - The Uninvited Guest
March 14, 2008
Team Work
February 29, 2008
Different Cultures
February 15, 2008
The Different Shades of Love
February 1, 2008
Commitment
January 18, 2008
#1 Major Marital Problem
January 4, 2008
Different Kinds of Love
December 14, 2007
The Perfect XMas Gift
November 30, 2007
Daily Thanksgiving
November 9, 2007
Resentment Backfires
September 29, 2007
Rebellion
September 14, 2007
Drugs
August 31, 2007
Blaming Others
August 17, 2007
Narcissism
August 3, 2007
Love?
July 22, 2007
The Dangers of Self Medication
June 22, 2007
Spoiling
May 25, 2007
Long Term vs. Short Term Relationships
May 11, 2007
You Are My Sunshine
April 27, 2007
Happiness is a Choice
April 13, 2007
Control Issues
March 30, 2007
Control
March 16, 2007
Fix My Children
March 2, 2007
Directions
February 2, 2007
Foreplay
January 19, 2007
Burn Out
January 5, 2007
The New Male Victims
December 1, 2006
Making Responsible Adults
November 17, 2006
Extreme Hairstyles Create Unwanted Perceptions
November 10, 2006
Primal Instincts
October 13, 2006
Men Understanding Women
September 1, 2006
Longevity with Gender Challenges
August 18, 2006
The New World of Children's Discipline
August 4, 2006
Life Is An Illusion
July 21, 2006
Damaged Ego/Housewife Blues
July 7, 2006
Creating Responsible Adults
June 23, 2006
Learn From TV Shows
April 29, 2006
Family Life
April 16, 2006
Bear Mentality
March 3, 2006
$ and Love
February 17, 2006
Miscarriage Grief
January 20, 2006
What Are America's Family Objectives?
December 2, 2005
The Worst Children's Abuse
November 18, 2005
Women are Adults
October 14, 2005
Kids Bringing Up Kids
August 16, 2005
Worn Out
July 8, 2005
The Paradox of Control
June 24, 2005
No Is Hard to Say
June 10, 2005
Confidence
May 27, 2005
Spoil, Spoiling, Spoilt
April 5, 2005
Don't Becomes Do
April 1, 2005
Teen Rage
March 18, 2005
Anger Management
March 4, 2005
Unsung Heroes
February 18, 2005
The Child Within
January 20, 2005
Shelf Life
November 12, 2004
It's Ok Not to Be Perfect
October 29, 2004
Handling Disappointed Hopes
October 15, 2004
Attitudes
October 1, 2004
Marriage: What's Love Got to do With It?
September 17, 2004
Graciousness
September 16, 2004
Men Caught in Catch 22
July 23, 2004
Jealousy-Judge-Jury-Jailer
July 9, 2004
Adult ADHD
May 28, 2004
The Secret of Anticipation
April 16, 2004
Can Sleep Deprivation Be the Problem?
March 19, 2004
Indecisiveness
March 5, 2004
The Return of Love
February 20, 2004
Guilty as Charged: Ungrateful
February 6, 2004
Hope
January 24, 2004
A Look at Legislation
January 9, 2004
False Illusions
December 19, 2003
Healing the Wounds of Life
December 5, 2003
Formula for Happiness
October 24, 2003
The Sublime and the Deviant
October 12, 2003
Motivation
September 12, 2003
The Magic Tear
August 29, 2003
The Destructiveness of Fear
August 1, 2003
Unsuspecting Involvements
July 4, 2003
Fear of Happiness
June 20, 2003
Reviving Love
June 6, 2003
Finding the Person Inside Yourself
May 9, 2003
Negative Filtering
April 25, 2003
Competition
April 11, 2003
Loneliness
March 14, 2003
Problem Solving Stress Issues
February 14, 2003
Long Term Relationships' Secrets
January 31, 2003
Why Suicide?
January 17, 2003
Perceptions
January 3, 2003
Broadening Our Perspectives
December 20, 2002
The Power of Laughter
November 22, 2002
Letting Go
November 8, 2002
Love
October 25, 2002
A New View in the Case Against Youthful Sex
October 11, 2002
Judgments
September 13, 2002
The Negative Teen Culture
August 30, 2002
Challenges
August 2, 2002
Teen Game Plan
July 19, 2002
Teenager's Strategies
July 5, 2002
Teenage Discipline
May 24, 2002
Disciplining Children Part 2
April 26, 2002
Raising Children
April 12, 2002
Disciplining Children
March 15, 2002
Rage
February 15, 2002
Healthy Food Choices
January 18, 2002
A Humorous Look at Business Answering Machines and Frustration
January 4, 2002
Obtaining Teen Cooperation
December 14, 2001
The Brain
November 16, 2001
Heed Events
November 9, 2001
Different Life Styles Leads to Different Interpretations of the Same Words
September 30, 2001
They Have Not Died In Vain (for 9/11)
September 14, 2001
Misunderstandings
August 31, 2001
Trust
August 3, 2001
Third of Fear Series
July 20, 2001
Second of Fear Series
July 6, 2001
First of Fear Series
June 8, 2001
Gender Differences with Life Situations
May 11, 2001
Illusions/Projecting Guilt
April 15, 2001
Knowing Your Personal Rights
March 31, 2001
Communication Empowerment
March 2, 2001
The Silence of Women
February 16, 2001
Effective Interrelationships
January 19, 2001
Gender Perceptions of Love