A Counselor's Reflections:
Columns From The Desk of Bernadine Fawcett

Author Statement

October 17, 2017
What Are People Really Saying?

October 17, 2017
War

October 16, 2017
Our Primitive Brain

October 15, 2017
Tests

October 1, 2017
Is It Communication?

September 14, 2017
Trust Issues

September 5, 2017
Distrust

August 16, 2017
Solutions

July 11, 2017
Negative Behavior

June 10, 2017
Procrastination

May 23, 2017
Who Lies?

May 2, 2017
We Have Two Brains

April 1, 2017
Women's Protection Laws Needed

March 1, 2017
Attachments

January 26, 2017
Adult Grade School Behavior

January 11, 2017
Reflection

December 1, 2016
Active Listening

November 23, 2016
Lies/Liars

November 1, 2016
Unsaid Remarks

October 1, 2016
Power Stories

September 14, 2016
2016 Candidate Race

September 1, 2016
Candidates Campaigning

July 21, 2016
Risk

June 3, 2016
The Nothing Box

May 1, 2016
Aging - Blessing or a Curse?

April 1, 2016
Today and Tomorrow

March 14, 2016
Power

March 1, 2016
Creative Thinking

February 2, 2016
Trust Issues

January 10, 2016
Male/Female Communication

November 18, 2015
A Christmas Tale

October 1, 2015
Decisions

September 1, 2015
Distraction

August 7, 2015
Embarrassed

July 26, 2015
Facebook Problems

June 15, 2015
Experiencing "The Now"

June 14, 2015
Possession vs. Equality/Love

May 9, 2015
How This Counselor Improves Relationships

March 31, 2015
Raw Grief

February 15, 2015
Victim Mentality

December 1, 2014
Eliminate Negativity

October 22, 2014
Retirement

October 1, 2014
Spoiled Children

September 4, 2014
Fear Is Fatal

August 20, 2014
Gender Priorities

June 23, 2014
What Is A Lady?

June 12, 2014
Lifestyles

May 15, 2014
Common Sense

May 14, 2014
Misperceptions

April 11, 2014
What a Good Relationship Needs

March 18, 2014
Helping or Enabling?

March 1, 2014
Irony

January 6, 2014
Role Confusion

November 22, 2013
Accounting

October 31, 2013
Diverse Cultures of the Bride and Groom

September 3, 2013
Children Need Guidance

August 17, 2013
Build a Category of Happy - Or Amazing or Wonderful Thoughts

July 3, 2013
What is Counseling?

June 16, 2013
Intentions

April 13, 2013
Conundrum

March 29, 2013
Proper Office Etiquette

March 13, 2013
Fix It!

February 12, 2013
Hurt

January 23, 2013
Clothes Send a Message

January 5, 2013
Misinterpretation of Love

November 25, 2012
Soldier's Guilt

November 7, 2012
Bipartisanship

October 1, 2012
Marriage: License To Be Disrespectful?

September 11, 2012
Comedian Roast's Toast

August 29, 2012
Misplaced Blame And Accusations

August 5, 2012
Little Details

July 1, 2012
Dog Whisperer

June 7, 2012
Primal Behavior

May 17, 2012
Self Acceptance

April 4, 2012
Marriage Failures

March 1, 2012
Shock & Awe

February 19, 2012
Why Fight?

January 9, 2012
Misconceptions

December 1, 2011
Keep Dancing!

November 3, 2011
Forgiveness vs. Understanding

October 1, 2011
Control vs. Helpful

August 31, 2011
Closure

August 7, 2011
Meditation

July 6, 2011
Deny or Replace?

June 22, 2011
Thankful

June 9, 2011
Attitude

May 16, 2011
What Story Do You Tell Yourself?

April 19, 2011
Results

March 24, 2011
Competition

February 22, 2011
Perceptions

February 4, 2011
Self Esteem

January 8, 2011
Tourette Syndrome

December 4, 2010
XMas Wishes

November 3, 2010
Stress Reactions

October 7, 2010
Deep Seated Causes

September 28, 2010
Motives

August 10, 2010
Where Are You Headed?

July 19, 2010
Why War?

June 18, 2010
About Wayne Dyer's "Excuses Begone"

June 7, 2010
How To Create Togetherness

May 17, 2010
Denied Choices

May 14, 2010
Labels

April 17, 2010
Fan Mail

March 11, 2010
Economic Turndown Fallout

February 9, 2010
Emotions Are Physical

February 8, 2010
Pack Rats

January 5, 2010
End Excuses

January 2, 2010
Overcoming Family Past

November 18, 2009
Causes of Anxiety

November 15, 2009
Failure Attitudes

October 20, 2009
Delivery of Needs

September 21, 2009
Composing a Budget

September 7, 2009
Dance Yourself to Happiness

August 24, 2009
Male Gender Differences

August 3, 2009
The Brain

July 17, 2009
Equal Rights

July 2, 2009
Team Work -Co-ordination

June 24, 2009
The Joy Of Life

June 16, 2009
Possession

June 3, 2009
Rid Yourself of ANTS

May 14, 2009
Moochers

April 25, 2009
Self Esteem

April 16, 2009
How To Deal With Bullying

April 13, 2009
The Difference between Sacrifice or Choice

March 30, 2009
Shock

March 27, 2009
Behavior - Feeling - Effect

March 19, 2009
Anger Management Dream

March 11, 2009
Lies

February 21, 2009
Interpretation

January 21, 2009
The Misunderstood Brain

January 6, 2009
Projection

December 5, 2008
Understanding the Brain

November 29, 2008
Happiness

November 25, 2008
Puppy Love

November 9, 2008
Obama's Communication Skills

October 13, 2008
An Economy Dream

October 3, 2008
Computer and Men

September 28, 2008
Do You Love Me?

September 13, 2008
Memories

September 6, 2008
Food For Thought/Instincts

July 15, 2008
Wise Animals

July 1, 2008
Teenage Rage




Here is an archive of Bernadine Fawcett's A Counselor's Reflections columns for The Sound Observer from 2001 to 2008.

June 27, 2008
Relationship #2

June 13, 2008
Relationship Rejection Issues

May 23, 2008
Adult Time Out

May 9, 2008
Misunderstandings

April 25, 2008
Fear - The Uninvited Guest

March 14, 2008
Team Work

February 29, 2008
Different Cultures

February 15, 2008
The Different Shades of Love

February 1, 2008
Commitment

January 18, 2008
#1 Major Marital Problem

January 4, 2008
Different Kinds of Love

December 14, 2007
The Perfect XMas Gift

November 30, 2007
Daily Thanksgiving

November 9, 2007
Resentment Backfires

September 29, 2007
Rebellion

September 14, 2007
Drugs

August 31, 2007
Blaming Others

August 17, 2007
Narcissism

August 3, 2007
Love?

July 22, 2007
The Dangers of Self Medication

June 22, 2007
Spoiling

May 25, 2007
Long Term vs. Short Term Relationships

May 11, 2007
You Are My Sunshine

April 27, 2007
Happiness is a Choice

April 13, 2007
Control Issues

March 30, 2007
Control

March 16, 2007
Fix My Children

March 2, 2007
Directions

February 2, 2007
Foreplay

January 19, 2007
Burn Out

January 5, 2007
The New Male Victims

December 1, 2006
Making Responsible Adults

November 17, 2006
Extreme Hairstyles Create Unwanted Perceptions

November 10, 2006
Primal Instincts

October 13, 2006
Men Understanding Women

September 1, 2006
Longevity with Gender Challenges

August 18, 2006
The New World of Children's Discipline

August 4, 2006
Life Is An Illusion

July 21, 2006
Damaged Ego/Housewife Blues

July 7, 2006
Creating Responsible Adults

June 23, 2006
Learn From TV Shows

April 29, 2006
Family Life

April 16, 2006
Bear Mentality

March 3, 2006
$ and Love

February 17, 2006
Miscarriage Grief

January 20, 2006
What Are America's Family Objectives?

December 2, 2005
The Worst Children's Abuse

November 18, 2005
Women are Adults

October 14, 2005
Kids Bringing Up Kids

August 16, 2005
Worn Out

July 8, 2005
The Paradox of Control

June 24, 2005
No Is Hard to Say

June 10, 2005
Confidence

May 27, 2005
Spoil, Spoiling, Spoilt

April 5, 2005
Don't Becomes Do

April 1, 2005
Teen Rage

March 18, 2005
Anger Management

March 4, 2005
Unsung Heroes

February 18, 2005
The Child Within

January 20, 2005
Shelf Life

November 12, 2004
It's Ok Not to Be Perfect

October 29, 2004
Handling Disappointed Hopes

October 15, 2004
Attitudes

October 1, 2004
Marriage: What's Love Got to do With It?

September 17, 2004
Graciousness

September 16, 2004
Men Caught in Catch 22

July 23, 2004
Jealousy-Judge-Jury-Jailer

July 9, 2004
Adult ADHD

May 28, 2004
The Secret of Anticipation

April 16, 2004
Can Sleep Deprivation Be the Problem?

March 19, 2004
Indecisiveness

March 5, 2004
The Return of Love

February 20, 2004
Guilty as Charged: Ungrateful

February 6, 2004
Hope

January 24, 2004
A Look at Legislation

January 9, 2004
False Illusions

December 19, 2003
Healing the Wounds of Life

December 5, 2003
Formula for Happiness

October 24, 2003
The Sublime and the Deviant

October 12, 2003
Motivation

September 12, 2003
The Magic Tear

August 29, 2003
The Destructiveness of Fear

August 1, 2003
Unsuspecting Involvements

July 4, 2003
Fear of Happiness

June 20, 2003
Reviving Love

June 6, 2003
Finding the Person Inside Yourself

May 9, 2003
Negative Filtering

April 25, 2003
Competition

April 11, 2003
Loneliness

March 14, 2003
Problem Solving Stress Issues

February 14, 2003
Long Term Relationships' Secrets

January 31, 2003
Why Suicide?

January 17, 2003
Perceptions

January 3, 2003
Broadening Our Perspectives

December 20, 2002
The Power of Laughter

November 22, 2002
Letting Go

November 8, 2002
Love

October 25, 2002
A New View in the Case Against Youthful Sex

October 11, 2002
Judgments

September 13, 2002
The Negative Teen Culture

August 30, 2002
Challenges

August 2, 2002
Teen Game Plan

July 19, 2002
Teenager's Strategies

July 5, 2002
Teenage Discipline

May 24, 2002
Disciplining Children Part 2

April 26, 2002
Raising Children

April 12, 2002
Disciplining Children

March 15, 2002
Rage

February 15, 2002
Healthy Food Choices

January 18, 2002
A Humorous Look at Business Answering Machines and Frustration

January 4, 2002
Obtaining Teen Cooperation

December 14, 2001
The Brain

November 16, 2001
Heed Events

November 9, 2001
Different Life Styles Leads to Different Interpretations of the Same Words

September 30, 2001
They Have Not Died In Vain (for 9/11)

September 14, 2001
Misunderstandings

August 31, 2001
Trust

August 3, 2001
Third of Fear Series

July 20, 2001
Second of Fear Series

July 6, 2001
First of Fear Series

June 8, 2001
Gender Differences with Life Situations

May 11, 2001
Illusions/Projecting Guilt

April 15, 2001
Knowing Your Personal Rights

March 31, 2001
Communication Empowerment

March 2, 2001
The Silence of Women

February 16, 2001
Effective Interrelationships

January 19, 2001
Gender Perceptions of Love



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